I can’t blame people for not wasting energy on a child that needs a lot more structure, support and training.

Nah. Just different choices in all of these. I have ADHD. Most of the problems are not about trying to achieve the same things as others do, but trying to achieve them the same way others do. After solving that there are still downsides, but these are not qualitative.

It takes very little to notice which things don’t work and don’t try them again. A parent who doesn’t care about this is a bad parent, and an educator who ignores this is simply malicious. At least in my experience people would very easily change their approaches.

Including very traditional-minded people and those denying the condition itself (“you don’t have a disorder, you just need to do things your own way” is ignorant, but really better than using others’ conditions to attack them, and I’ve heard this really often ; definitely better than “oh, it’s so sad, I really hope everything will be good with you, I really like your imagination and hope you’ll give it more attention, but it seems you won’t change, we are too different, don’t write me anymore”, said in 20x the amount of words, in relationships).

Those who wouldn’t were either insulted by some perceived lack of respect and tried to prove that I’m stupid, needless to say that lack of respect became genuine then (like a few school teachers and university professors, but not all of them ; or peers of the “dumb and uninventive, but proud of being capable of stealing something” kind), or ignorant idiots of the Soviet generation afraid of anything connected to mental health (like my dad, what’s even dumber I’m confident he was autistic too).

With such carelessness or lack of awareness, I cannot blame someone for not thinking and just running away. If someone is seemingly shortsighted, unreliable or uncaring, why stay with them? Or starting a relationship with them with no certainty things will improve? It’s wrong to believe you can change or fix someone, it is foolish to try when you don’t.

Humans have invented words to discuss all those things. If it’s about spending possibly the rest of your life alongside someone, being reluctant to talk is just strange. Yes, if the other person thinks they know better and this shouldn’t be discussed in detail, then no chance.

Unless that other person is too autistic, ha-ha. Then that particular kind of problems one can just write off.

Retarded is a synonym of mentally underdeveloped. If that’s not the case, then it’s just used incorrectly.

Usually because of social disdain for your behavior, and intended to degrade you into a lesser person than them.

Usually starts when your position on something irritates people who don’t have any arguments other than your condition.

You’ve literally described how people around you make mistakes and put their weight on you. You are trying to reach them, but they are not trying to reach you. That’s just wrong kind of people. I have friends and even neighbors not like this. Don’t try to be good enough for some filth.

I don’t care what people call having multiple mental disabilities. What’s important is helping children on the spectrum. Early detection could have spared me further brain damage and subsequent stacking of developmental problems.

I care about both, but it’s correct at least that people with such conditions should know about them as early as possible, to help with the challenges presented.

People shouldn’t think that starting a family with someone autistic is just “going to be a little different.”

Where I live people overthink that a lot. Somebody who had a few abusive relationships still thinks that one with an autistic person is worse because they are disabled or because they are crazy or some other ignorant caveman shit.

But you are right that for an autistic person a relationship with someone not conscious of all this is an idea that will fail without doubt. Because such people don’t even know that one can think about relationships, it all works instinctively for them. They react to any diversion from the usual path the same way a Windows user reacts to a BSOD. They don’t even see that nothing particularly bad has happened, are afraid to think and just run away.

This is just a misunderstanding of statistics. Something being true for the average doesn’t mean it’s true for separate points.

But in average that’s a bit like calling homosexualism a disability.

I like the border between disability and just neurodivergence to be drawn where it needs to be cured with medicine or you turn into a vegetable or can’t survive. Like with schizophrenia, or maybe BPD. With autism and ADHD most of the problems are from trying to follow procedures for people who are different and imitate them, and most of the solutions are about teaching people with these conditions to drop those imitations and know themselves. I mean, medicine helps, but the problems it solves are too mostly about network effect.

or end a relationship

Rather that relationship doesn’t even start, not because you insult someone (that happens, but you’re forgiven), not because you are not likeable (I thought I’m that for a long time, and lots of moments I am), but because you just don’t (despite being hit on by people amazingly beautiful and interesting and intelligent and sending electric shocks your way by simply texting you).

Though I guess someone giving you chances for over a year qualifies as a relationship which ends at some point. Just dysfunctional.

There is nothing good with ADHD.

It gives incentives to be a kinder person. You feel emotions connected to hurt\comfort more acutely than those connected to prestige, power, dominance. You dream far and swift. You don’t care about lying (EDIT: I meant that you don’t lie, not the opposite).

Any time I want to say what you said and recount all the suffering, I notice that I like it more than the alternative.

Also I still think it can be an equal exchange in a world more friendly to ADHD people.

EDIT: And it can be used against fear.

So two people communicate, one is American speaking English and the other is a Natmurrikan, speaking their Natmurrikan language. The former communicates with the latter and the latter communicates with the former. So if they speak Natmurrikan and it doesn’t feel natural for the American, is that right that this is the American’s fault?

People communicate more freely than ever,

What made you think so? My impression is that they communicate more freely in Jules Verne’s books than now. That’s about the Web and not even my environment.

and have access to history more than they ever have.

And the fact that it doesn’t help should hint you.

There isn’t a problem that will come up that will suddenly make me want to assist in genocide.

“Suddenly” is moving the goalposts. Of course you’ll be prepared.

You still can’t fathom it. Trump is a completely different phenomenon.

If something like Hitler in a similar socio-political situation happens, you will support it.

The weird AI panic, driven by an attempt to repurpose the popular anti-crypto arguments whether they matched the new challenges or not, is going to PR this tech into wasting way more energy than it would otherwise by distributing it over billions of computer devices paid by individual users. And nobody is going to notice or care.

I think the idea was that these things are bad idea locally or otherwise, if you don’t control them.

In Europe without even anything exotic - German, archaic Dutch and all insular Scandinavian languages, and all Slavic languages. I don’t know Finnish, Estonian and Hungarian, so I can’t talk about them, a plethora of cases, but genders - I don’t remember.

The interesting thing to learn is that there are languages with more than 3 genders (M, F and thing). Or even more than 4 (M, F, N and thing), with additional genders being for kinds of animals, fish, plants, buildings, instruments. But I’ve only heard about that, haven’t studied any such language.

A horrible simplification. Power is what they are fighting for and they are getting it.

This is also what the Putler-backed far right parties in Europe stand for.

In European politics corrupt, and usually by Russia among others, parties encompass much more than these. You can tell easily a not yet poisoned voice when comparing with theirs.

Half of Linux usage is on the text-based command line anyway, just what LLMs are good at.

You are going to allow an LLM to run commands on your system?

It has only 2 genders, and they don’t affect verb inflections.

extremely gendered

Compared to English - yeah, but in general there’s nothing extreme about genders in French.

When there’s sufficient popular demand.

The article is not about that anyway.

Of course.

The best solution against HIV is not to use protection - it’s to avoid brothels and strangers.

Just like with governments - the best solution against corruption is not oversight, it’s to remove the particular area from governmental management.

If you don’t need anything from some interaction - don’t interact.

Which is why the modern Web, the social media, the fashion tech toy crap, the “AI”, the cryptoscams, … - these are all things that can’t stand. They don’t intend to frankly, just like with Ponzi schemes, the goal is to run very fast until you can’t. What’s the profit in it - the profit is in one-time theft, or one-time murder, or anything else like that. While it lasts, misinformation and censorship and oppression get an easy time. It will end, but the harm will be done and the profits reaped.

EDIT: Which is very close to the “business plan” of NSDAP frankly - a few one-time big scams to fund rearmament of Germany, then a few mass thefts from Jews and whoever else, then a few invasions … at some point they couldn’t keep going this way, though.

Was going to say that I was dreaming of such platform, but then it can be used for more than just links, and work as a decentralized Usenet, and what’s more important, as a rating system potentially more resilient to abuse (by bots or by people whose votes you don’t care about). Then noticed that you wrote “federated”.

I don’t think even GRU is that stupid.

OSCAR is a protocol too. And there were ICQ servers to run locally back then too. There also was some “ICQ for business” or similar.

I’ve also learned yesterday that people responsible for Escargot (MSN server) have another project, NINA, for AIM and ICQ.

So maybe these things will be reborn.

They seem to aim for implementing all of the AOL suite functionality. Maybe after they achieve that we’ll see Xtraz and contact directory from ICQ working again. If that happens, I’m going to cry for a few hours. EDIT: or weeks.

VK bought it when it became completely irrelevant/

Should have been looking for a therapist (that said, I’ve done my deal of blabbering about occult stuff back then too)