I have noticed that I interact a lot more in Lemmy than I ever did in any social media. Let it be Reddit, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter… I am used to be the lurker, but here for some reason things are different. Wonder if more people feel like I do.

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    9 months ago

    I try not to. This place bans you for “not being nice”, which is an arbitrary metric that changes from mod to mod and let’s all be honest, being nice is exhausting. Ask anyone working in retail.

    The comments here are correct though. As long as you focus on your niche and it’s relatively active, then stay away from propaganda media, Lemmy can be an useful place. The default All is worthless in anything but lurking and you need to find the communities about your interests or make them yourself if they don’t exist here yet.

    Edit: That was close! I almost commented on some dumb take in a doubly dangerous post that involved both current wars. That’s a definite no-no. Just don’t get involved, it’s not worth the trouble.

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      9 months ago

      Reddit bans for not being nice, Facebook, hell even 4chan does. What are you looking for, a place where people can be assholes and “correct”? You don’t want that at all

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        Well, this ain’t any of those sites. Why would anyone want it to be. Also, your imagination of what i want and my imagination of what i want are likely very different imaginations. So let’s not imagine either of us is “correct” while the loser by popular vote gets banned in the process.

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      9 months ago

      This place bans you for “not being nice”, which is an arbitrary metric that changes from mod to mod and let’s all be honest, being nice is exhausting.

      Lemmy is many places (individual instances with individual moderation policies). If it’s important to you, you can find a server which matches your expectations, or host your own.

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        9 months ago

        Even though i used different words, i believe i said pretty much the same thing in the part of my post you’re not quoting. Or perhaps we’ve been taught different kinds of English. Might explain the lack of understanding around here.

        Ah, my mistake. I wrote communities, you wrote instances. Yes, the difference is immesureable. My apologies.

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          I don’t think we were talking about the same thing. You’re talking about restricting your behaviour, “focus on your niche”, “stay away from propaganda media”. My proposal was to use an instance which makes it unecessary for you to restrict yourself to certain areas, if their moderation policy aligns with your default behaviour.

          Of course it ultimately comes down to similar things, since instances which do not care wether you’re nice aren’t allowed in all places which require you to be nice. The key difference is still that you don’t have to be wary yourself. It sounded as if you would not like that.

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            9 months ago

            Yes, we might be talking in parallel. It’s true i might be on the wrong side of the fence since i expect that even the hateful deserve their chance to speak, at least until they become irremediable. And i do disagree with this safe space isolative behaviour. Perhaps you are correct and i should instead visit those, and i’m paraphrasing, ‘bigotry-infested phobic hellholes’ for a while and see what’s what.

            Thank you.

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        9 months ago

        Yes, well, you have your experience and i have mine, else we would not be here, would we?