On version 0.19 you can block instances so that you don’t see any posts from that instance, instead of having to block communities one by one, you still see comments from users of that instance in other posts so it isn’t completely blocking the instance.
I disagree with the instance’s philosophy. I think “be nice” leads to a lot of unintended consequences and echo chambering. Edit to add: One of the Seven Tenets of The Satanic Temple is: “The freedoms of others should be respected, including the freedom to offend. To willfully and unjustly encroach upon the freedoms of another is to forgo one’s own.”. I don’t go out of my way to troll; however, I feel that Beehaw’s instance philosophy does not align with the idea that we have the freedom to offend with our own opinions.
Conversely, I am not LGBTQ+ and I don’t need to be in their space. They get to deal with normies all the time in everyday life.
Thats valid! Not super familiar with Beehaw since they locked applications when I was trying out the fediverse and are defederated with my main instances.
As a member of the queer community, I respect your opinion and honestly kind of wish it were more common. It’s annoying going to a queer event and more than half of the people there are straight. Or having confidently incorrect opinions about lgbtq+ issues and getting mad when they are corrected.
Edit: It would be rad af to see an instance codify the satanic temple’s tenants in their code of conduct. I’m not like a member or anything, but their tenants align strongly with my values so I’d do the same if I were in your position.
Tbh this experience explains the be nice rule. We often get to be treated badly in everyday life. Many of us experience a passive level of hostility and interrogation just out in the world living our lives. A portion of people internalize a portion of what they hear, which leads to hostility and conflict within the community. To counter the flow of outside hate into the group, many LGBTQ+ communities have that sort of blanket tone rule. When you’re sorting out that you’re a different and controversial type of person, it’s important to have a space to express yourself without intense scrutiny. You need a place where it is safe to be wrong, because you’re often declared wrong and attacked just for being there, so you can’t judge your own thoughts and feelings. It’s important that people in that position can be helped and directed without being stifled. Otherwise the true form of the self can be lost to self defense conformity.