like you know you’re a good person at heart but life circumstances and trauma and bullying and etc prevented you from learning the proper social skills to find companionship. not necessarily a forum to actually find friends (i find going into things with that intention feels fake and weird), but rather a forum to commiserate and share advice and coping mechanisms and so on.
loneliness is increasing worldwide, esp in men. and it’s very easy to get into the weeds on this of course…
happy fuckin holidays
I’ve given up personally. I don’t know if it’s life circumstances or me not being as good at heart as I’d hope, but I’ve resigned myself and I’m just trying to learn to cope with the loneliness. At some point it’s fair to call it quits and start being realistic.
That’s just me ranting though, this isn’t directed at you, and I wish you the best of luck.
I still have faith in you even if you think you quit. One day, you’ll stop feeling lonely.
I can be surround by people I call friends and still be lonely. It’s not a thing that starts and stops
I understand. Loneliness isn’t the same as being alone.
Not sure if it’s specifically what you’re looking for, but I’d recommend going on disboard and looking up local discord servers. I’ve joined a couple and met some people I like hanging out with through one. I’ve found that people on local servers tend to be a mix, including other lonely or socially awkward people. One of the servers I’m in literally has a How to Make Friends pinned post for people who might need it. It’s also got an all purpose support thread going that tends to be very positive.
Find a few near you that do meet ups or events, feel the groups out for a bit even just lurking and see if it feels right for you. Maybe go to an event, even if you also feel anxious, and try to meet some of the people you talk to online. Just remember that they might also be lonely people trying to make a connection too.
