For me, growing up, I was around people who saw games as useless and a waste of time, but I loved them

I’ve always been into computers and tech and was called techy and a gamer and each time, it was said with a sort of disgust from the person saying it.

It made me feel like I shouldn’t be friends with the few people like me, and I spent a lot of my childhood staying away from people, and making sure that people didn’t learn that I played games

Even now, I get slightly uncomfortable being called a gamer or techy or any synonym even though people don’t really think that anymore around here.

Anyone else have something similar?

  • insaneinthemembrane@lemmy.world
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    When I was much younger, someone older said I’d grow up to be a heartbreaker. I was like… What? No. I’m nice, I’m not going to break hearts, what?.. Long after I realised it was a compliment on how I might look when I grew up. I still don’t think it’s a good compliment though.

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      It is a good compliment. At the end of the day, people will find you attractive and fall in love, even if you are already in a commited relationship or not interested. Being a “heartbreaker” is only shitty if you actively do something that makes it hurt the other person more - i.e. stringing them along, using people etc. Breaking hearts is part of life, even if someone is nice. At the end of the day neither you, nor the person that has fallen in love with you can change how they feel very much, it’s your actions in response to that that make you a shitty or good person.