These two things are entirely mostly unrelated. People who do not want to be misgendered for whatever reason use them to avoid being misgendered as often as possible. To be inclusive some allies include theirs also, it shows some level of support and helps normalize displaying pronouns. You can still support others without putting your own pronouns promenantly out there for everyone to see.

Take me for instance. I identify agenderly but use he/him pronouns mostly becuase that’s how I was born and look. I, much like you, don’t care about how I’m pronouned, and honestly I prefer however I’m presenting at the time. In life it doesn’t change much. But in games it can vary.

My own opinion on pronouns being that they exist to ease conversation, and so long as they do that, I have no problem using anyone’s preferred selection. Up until someone decides their pronouns are so unique that it’s not really a pronoun anymore, it’s more like a second name. That’s when I get a bit petty and will generally avoid talking about whoever that is at all.

There are many reasons why people may not disclose their pronouns and I wouldn’t presume that means taking a stance against trans or anyone.

If today I saw emojis listed as someone’s pronouns, my first thought would be that they’re trolling or taking it as a joke though.

Just be yourself, show your support in any way that makes you feel comfortable and if anyone asks why you don’t disclose yours you can just say pretty much what you’ve just said. I think it’s understandable enough.

You can be a trans ally regardless of how you identify gender-wise or how you feel about sharing your preferred pronouns to others.

There’s more than one way to be trans. But the mainstream centres a certain trans experience/narrative above all others that includes the gender binary and presuming everyone has enough privilege, safety, and support that they can broadcast their pronouns widely without risk of discrimination, job loss, etc. A lot of trans people do not enjoy that level of freedom of expression - temporarily while in transition or migrating to safer place, or permanently. It’s not uncommon to meet trans people who are critical of ‘pronoun culture’, which can refer to institutions doing the bare minimum to present a picture of inclusivity while failing to acknowledge current barriers.

I identify differently in different contexts, because disclosing my preferred pronouns is my right and I’m not going to do it to the detriment of my safety. Other people and institutions have to earn that trust first. So I generally don’t broadcast pronouns, and they aren’t that important to me. But when I see other people using them, I appreciate the roadmap for how they’d like me to interact with them.

I get a bit of a sense you might not yet have found an identity that really resonates with you. For me, feeling disconnected from my core sense of gender and feeling dissatisfied with life are highly associated.

I’m an ally, but I don’t put my pronouns in any profile. I let people figure it out for themselves. Pronouns are only useful for talking about me anyways. If they get it wrong, it’s not really a big deal, and if it might cause confusion, I’ll correct them.

To the content of your post though, I sincerely hope that you are able to access some therapy.

sounds like “any/all” is the way to go for you.

Hey, I just want to say that I have a similarly tragic backstory, and I see you. It’s never easy, but it does get easier.

If you really don’t care about pronouns but want to signal that you realize they’re important to people, why not try he/they on for size? People will probably default to “he” which you’re accustomed to, but if someone uses “they” would you really notice?

i’ve seen people use “any/all”, maybe that?