• Norgur@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    Yeah, not everything has to be positive and cotton candy fluff. It’s okay that I have a handicap and I find it offensive that people feel the need to sell me my handicap to me as some sort of boon…

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      1 year ago

      Yeah, like people, some things just suck. Trying to find the positive in some situations just isn’t helpful. Some people even try to find the positives with my migraine. Like no, it just sucks.

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        1 year ago

        Some people even try to find the positives with my migraine.

        It’s the typical reaction of people who lack compassion (to your situation) but still want to fulfill the societal expectation of being sympathetic. They try silver lining it so it doesn’t feel uncomfortable to them anymore. It happens so much…

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          I’ve known an ADHD-Kid that was really suffering most from the typical self-consciousness-issues. The kid was in the boyscouts-group I used to run. I - ADHD myself - always had a pretty good connection to the kid, so we got to talk by the campfire one evening and the kid told me that what hurt them the most (kid was about 12 at the time) was that their parents always told them to see their ADHD as their super special superpower and as a boon. Yet, the kid was not at all able to see it that way (go figure) and thus felt even worse because they felt that they were so incompetent that they could not even use that superpower they got as such but only got negative effects on their life from it.

          I never tried to insert myself into the upbringing of any of the children (that’d be super out of place), it was pretty hard for me to help the kid navigate this issue…