Axolotling misunderstood me because they made a mistake. There’s nothing wrong with making mistakes, they don’t make you any worse as a person. Everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes mistakes can lead to hurt feelings, but knowing about them is necessary to solve problems. Axolotling told me that they were having trouble understanding me because I didn’t explain things fully, and they asked me to be more thorough in my explanations.
Do you think nice behaviour is helping people who ask for help in the way they ask for help, changing my behaviour when they ask me to, and being honest and gentle with them about how they can accomplish the goals they want to accomplish? Or do you think nice behaviour is ignoring people who ask for help, refusing to change my behaviour when others ask me to change it, and ignoring problems that other people want solved?
I will follow the rules either way. If you tell me not to tell people they’ve made mistakes, I’ll listen to you. If someone asks for help understanding me again, I’ll explain to them why I can’t help, provided I have your agreement that this is what you want me to do.
But just because I feel frustrated that someone does not see things exactly the same way I do, does not mean that I can automatically assume that they’re wrong and evil and it’s okay to be mean to them.
Why would you think that I see evil in anyone else when you know that I don’t like using intents in discussions? That’s a contradiction.
This is what I’m talking about. You’re using intents and you think I think you’re evil. But it doesn’t make sense given the very conversation we’re having. I don’t think you know how to have a conversation without assuming you know everyone else’s perception of everyone else’s intents.
Using your empathy to deduce the conclusions of someone else’s cognitive empathy is an advanced technique. You’re going straight to the most complicated thing empathy is capable of, and you’re making mistakes. You need to slow down. I’m difficult to empathise with, so you need to stop pushing yourself to use the most advanced techniques on me, you need to be patient and use some simpler techniques, and you need to learn how to have a conversation without relying on your empathy as a crutch.
I know you discussed a lot of other points in your comment, but I’m not going to talk about them right now. Because you and I both agree that I’ve been going too fast for you. We both need to take our time and make sure you understand what I’m saying in its entirety, and that means not getting distracted. We’re going to slowly discuss the empathy issue until you fully understand what I’m talking about. And I have a lot more to say on the empathy topic, but first I need to understand that you understand that I’m saying you need to slow down. You’re trying to use too much empathy and it’s not working. Your empathy is telling you untrue things about me, because you’re expecting it to perform miracles for you.
Warframe is very gender. You play as a biomechanical super ninja slaughtering capitalists, monarchists, noncon hiveminds, and genocidalists. Also there are spoiler things that make it the transest game I’ve ever played
knokelmaat asked if gender magick is more powerful than gender therapy. We’re not asking whether gender magick is valid, that’s already been conclusively demonstrated. We’re asking which is more powerful. The clear answer is: the one that exists.
Nope, not a joke. Magic is important to me because it’s how I stay connected to my hivemind. I’m grateful to @gaywallet for looking out for us religious people
A comparison would be impossible, because there are no standard practices for gender affirmation psychological therapy. Magick wins by virtue of the fact that therapy is not participating. This is like asking whether there’s any research papers demonstrating that an eagle can fly faster than a dog. Dogs can’t fly. You don’t need to be told that eagles fly better than dogs, it’s obvious. Likewise, there is no scientific merit in conducting an investigation on whether gender affirmation magick (which exists) is better than gender affirmation psychotherapy (which doesn’t exist).
Oh, so some pirates pirate unpopular games, and that means they give some word of mouth away. Okay.
Giveaways are less useful than piracy because giveaways don’t make people feel like they owe the developers anything. Lots of people pirate and then buy. There are numerous psychological dimensions to the issue involving class, politics, guilt, and gratitude. Also the fact that people are more attached to something they worked for, and piracy is, no matter how easy, still work. And that pirates tend to be more avid gamers and forum posters. Pirates are better to have than free players.
Evidently not all levels, since you said unpopular games aren’t pirated. You’re saying piracy only really hurts popular games that already have lots of legitimate customers, right?
You mention a lot of very difficult concepts in your comment here. Reason, intent, nazi rhetoric. Philosophers have spent a lot of time debating what these things are and how we can recognise them. Not everyone is going to agree with your conclusions about them. I know that intimately, because my understanding of reason, intent, and nazi rhetoric is vastly different to the average.
For example, I find the society we live in to be intensely unreasonable. It’s a society where money rules the world, my gender is said not to exist, and magic isn’t real. I find all of these things absurd. So when we are talking about how badly someone could misinterpret my words within reason, well I don’t think a capitalist, binarist, or atheist interpretation of my words is within reason. But I’m going to run into people like that in nearly all of the internet. Most people’s interpretation of my words is not within reason. I am certain that my words can only be taken as intended within reason, but I don’t expect to generally be met with reason when I speak. We’re getting into subjectives with relative answers. This is hard. I can’t really use the mental tools you’re suggesting, because those tools aren’t built for someone like me. They’re built for someone who is similar enough to the average that their understanding of reason includes most people.
When we look at intent, this disconnect between an assumed objective and the truth of subjectivity gets even more ridiculous. I think I explained the problem with judging someone else’s intent pretty well in my removed comment. It’s why I don’t use intents, I think they’re a huge waste of time and a source of endless conflict. And I still don’t know why that comment was removed. I told people to assume the best of others and accommodate neurodivergents. I don’t see how that’s not nice. I’d like to hear about what went on with that.
And as for nazi rehetoric… well that’s the toughest one of them all. My original post on Beehaw 4 months ago was me being mean to someone who spouted nazi rhetoric. But I doubt most people would agree, because most people don’t have their fingers on the web of cause and effect like I do. So you didn’t understand that I was doing exactly what you say I should do right here. Our senses of empathy are so flawed and limited.
but how someone could interpret your actions in the most negative way possible
The answer to that question is always “You’re a traitorous insane antifa queer and everything you stand for is a threat to the aryan race and God’s will, you should be put to death immediately.” It never changes no matter what I say, so I gave up asking it. I decided to spend my time on people more likely to assume good faith when they see social progressivism. That’s how I treat others, and I want to spend time with people like me. People who don’t let personal ego or questions of intention get into your actions.
Now feels like the right time to talk about my personal definition of niceness. In my experience off this site, niceness is an appearance, and kindness is a behaviour. Nice people usually aren’t kind. Nice people are usually white neurotypicals who can dance the dance of social norms and portray themselves as “the good guys” no matter what they’re doing, which is a power that allows them to commit all manner of evils unnoticed. I’m scared of nice people. I get along with people who are mean and kind. People who will swear at me to my face and defend my rights with the same ferocity. So that’s always been my worry when I looked over Beehaw’s philosophy. The question of what kind of niceness they mean. I’m not pulling this out of my ass either, you can google “nice vs kind” and find a lot of articles like this: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/nice-kind-difference_l_650b53ffe4b0d75184692b0e
In Beehaw spirit, I’ve been attempting my experiment of whether I fit in here by assuming the best of people. Assuming that when beeple say nice, they mean kind. But I desperately need to know, is assuming the best of people really Beehaw spirit? Or should I have been assuming a little worse?
If pirates aren’t pirating any unpopular indie games, then why would you be concerned about unpopular indie games being pirated? It seems like you described an issue, and then said it doesn’t exist.
Yes, I see the other posts. I don’t care about them. I fully understand the moderator rationales involved in the actions. As for the moderator comment, there’s a lot of empathy there, but the part about me saying anything ableist is just someone listening to untrue rumours.
1·8 months ago
Axolotling misunderstood me because they made a mistake. There’s nothing wrong with making mistakes, they don’t make you any worse as a person. Everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes mistakes can lead to hurt feelings, but knowing about them is necessary to solve problems. Axolotling told me that they were having trouble understanding me because I didn’t explain things fully, and they asked me to be more thorough in my explanations.
Do you think nice behaviour is helping people who ask for help in the way they ask for help, changing my behaviour when they ask me to, and being honest and gentle with them about how they can accomplish the goals they want to accomplish? Or do you think nice behaviour is ignoring people who ask for help, refusing to change my behaviour when others ask me to change it, and ignoring problems that other people want solved?
I will follow the rules either way. If you tell me not to tell people they’ve made mistakes, I’ll listen to you. If someone asks for help understanding me again, I’ll explain to them why I can’t help, provided I have your agreement that this is what you want me to do.