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This is something that has always interested me but I’ve never tried. Any recommendations on a set of picks to start with?

Are you talking about the adapters that let you run network through your electrical circuits? Because that’s different from PoE. PoE is running power through the network cables so you get power and network with one plug, so kind of the opposite of that.

I can confirm that using electrical infrastructure for network is really not great.

It’s like credit card churning but for brain chemicals

Finish your current project

“What project?” I say, as I start a third project after getting bored with the second project and completely forgetting that the first project ever existed.

That sounds like a fun way to do it!

WRONG!

I write the tasks in my little notebook and then I don’t have to think about it until later.

DISCLAIMER: This only works if you actually review the notebook periodically, as I have recently discovered.

I’m not even kidding - I started doing the bullet journal method (this video) recently and it is not an understatement to say it changed my life. I’m just talking the basic method in the video - I always thought bullet journaling was all of the pretty spreads and fancy lettering but that’s not at all what it is about. It was developed by a guy with ADHD to help himself manage his own brain in school and work.

Knowing that if I write something down I have a process to evaluate it later means I really can stop stressing about it. And then at the end of the day / week / month I can look over the tasks, evaluate if they are actually important, and put them where they need to go.

Knowing that I have those periods of reflection each week / month to migrate and organize tasks means I don’t stress about a super long list of tasks either. Before I always felt like I had to do a task ASAP or else I would forget it and it wouldn’t get done for months (if ever). Now I just don’t worry about that.

It has helped me also a LOT with planning a reasonable amount of things to do for the day. Yes, these 10 things NEED to be done, but they don’t NEED to be done TODAY - I’ll put them in my weekly or monthly when I am reviewing unfinished tasks for the day. Then when I start a new day, I will review the weekly, monthly, and previous day and pick a couple unfinished things that are important and put them on my daily list.

Having that structure and writing things multiple times also helps me with executive function. It makes everything seem much more achievable.

TL;DR - Bullet Journal Method was made by an ADHD brain, and I recommend it. 10/10. Just watch this short video and also maybe check out some of the other videos and podcast that Ryder Carroll has done

A lot of tea for me, especially earthy flavors. Shou Puerh tea is like a magical grounding experience for me every time I drink it. I love coffee and drink that daily, but when I really need to just be I break into the puerh stash.

For evenings I like a lot of herbal teas. Rooibos is probably my favorite. Lately I have been drinking a lot of lemon ginger tea with a splash of apple cider vinegar before bed.

Similar situation here. I was raised home schooled for all of my education. Got a GED, good score on the ACT, got a 4.0 in the community college where I got an associates degree. The problem is parents who homeschool because they don’t want their kids to turn “woke” or be “converted” by exposure to the fact that non-straight, non-cis people exist. A lot of the time, the emphasis is only on indoctrination, and there is little or no actual education involved.

I have been to homeschool conferences - there are some good resources there, and a LOT of really pretty awful stuff like this article mentioned. People like the author are so incredibly impactful, even if they don’t realize it. They may never see results but those seeds matter. Even if the parents don’t get it, the kids will.

At a conference last year, there was a speaker talking about parenting difficult children (Kirk Martin with Celebrate Calm). He was presenting very much a solid gentle parenting approach (though he didn’t call it that) that is very contrary to the culture of a lot of homeschool groups. He spent a lot of time unpacking his experiences as someone who grew up with really strict physical discipline, the impact it had on him, his experience being a parent - kind of leading people on a journey from where they might be to where they should be as parents.

He also spent a bit of his talk on how the Bible doesn’t teach us to raise our kids to fight in a culture war and just really pretty clearly calling out a lot of the toxic far right christian-nationalist talking points. Sure he made a lot of people uncomfortable, but those thoughts will stick with them.

After his talk he was spent over an hour talking with people outside of the conference room answering questions. His next talk was packed as well.

Anyway, all that to say - I know it can take a lot out of someone to deal with people in those environments, but it is absolutely impactful and so desperately needed.

It honestly changed my life when I started meeting with friends at specific times each week to lift weights. Having it be an actual appointment that would affect others if I didn’t show up made all the difference. I was super excited to be there and never missed a day.

Then their schedules changed and they are no longer available when I am. I still like working out… but it’s so hard to make myself do it and I am super inconsistent now. It depresses me to think about it

I have issues with FireFox running YouTube on windows 10 - it gets super laggy - the issue is nonexistent if I used the Piped frontend. I think it depends a lot on what website you are using - some don’t play well with FireFox.

That being said, I did not have issues with FireFox on Mac when I used that, or on Linux, though I don’t use my Linux laptop a lot for web heavy stuff

I need to get more. It is legit. I don’t know how the quality of the supermarket stuff but I had some from a local farmers market and it was awesome. The guy grows all the mushrooms himself and sells them fresh and dried and the extracts. He also sells the stuff to grow your own. But the fresh stuff he had was really helpful to me before I knew I had ADHD. I just thought I had brainfog but that stuff really helped with focus for me.

I’m on meds now that help too but I’d like to get some more lions main as well

This is very true. It can be hard to get started but it makes a huge impact

A lot of these are things everyone does sometimes. If it’s something that is happening multiple times a week, or multiple times a day, then it might be worth taking to your Dr and filing out the test.

Full time student + full time work is a LOT to handle, even without ADHD.

Yeah it doesn’t seem too difficult to me to see when reviews seem fishy. I have never tried fakespot myself.

Another thing to check is that the reviews match what the product is for - I have seen a lot of Amazon listings where the seller will have a product up for a long time, get a lot of positive reviews, then change the listing to something else. So it looks like the listing has been up for a long time with good reviews but it’s really a different item. Then note the seller and don’t buy anything from them lol.

Per the article, they are integrating Fakespot into Firefox, so it won’t be different. Hopefully the tool can be improved

I also recommend writing down symptoms - For me it varies a lot from day to day and it can be difficult to remember what the more extreme symptoms are like when I’m not experiencing them.

That’s a great idea! I did start writing some things down but not with dates or times so I’ll start a proper log

No, it’s not excuses, it’s just reality. It’s hard. Does that mean people shouldn’t try to do better and make things better? Of course not. Being better and doing better is hard, and we should do it anyway. That kind of personal growth is central to the human experience, or it ought to be.

The thing is, just because people aren’t doing better in the area that you understand and care about doesn’t mean that they aren’t in other areas that you may not know about.

For example, someone who is stressed out and overburdened with work may be using all of their available energy to be a better parent and make sure that their child is raised in a healthy and emotionally stable home. If that doesn’t leave room for people to support FOSS and privacy friendly browsers that’s ok.

Just be the best human you can be every day and don’t beat yourself (or others) up for not being perfect.

It’s not really the time. It’s more about the mental effort it takes to find out what to switch to.

Sure, it’s easy to install Firefox or sign up for Lemmy once you know that it’s there, but most people just have a sense that things suck with no idea of what they can do to fix it.

Finding out what to do to have a better experience takes a non-trivial amount of mental energy that scrolling reddit and instagram do not require.

The constant hustle, multiple jobs, or jobs with a high mental load, rising prices and stagnant wages all work together to create a lot of decision fatigue and stress. It often takes something major to get people out of that and get them active at changing things.