I am a trans woman so I understand how it feels to not have the hormones you want in your body. It’s literal hell. You are allowed to have your own feelings, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Your wife’s mental state is just in the gutter right now and that’s why she’s lashing out at you.
I’d recommend seeing a professional so she can get prescribed estradiol. That’s really the only thing that’s going to fix it.
Yeah, I forgot that there are different variants better suited for cis women. I’m pretty sure you’re correct that she does need something a bit different.