I agree with you.

I think argueing if adhd might be over or under diagnosed makes adulds feel even more ashamed.

I also don’t like blaming self diagnosis. Women having a hard time finding professionell help, cause they never fit into stereotypical adhd behaivor. They seen as overreacting and emotional.

I knew my gender identity was a lie

18€ a month, cause in germany we have the gez gebühren to keep journalism in good quality

Thank you 🥰

When it comes to japanese food, Düsseldorf is really great. Cause i studied there i know some good Restaurants and supermarkets 😆 but i take recomondations all around nrw.

i really want to taste spicy indian food or try other asian food, that is not so common here 🤔

My best friend visited south korea a few years ago. She never liked spicy food, but said it was so good there, she now likes this stuff.

I wanna eat the real spicy food! In germany everything is watered down so n00bs can eat it🥲

Yeees

You are right. I want to add some historical perspective as well (but sorry i am no englisch naitive):

Marriage is importaint for a society who has land and money to own. To give it to the next generation, your kind. Marriage wasn’t that of a deal until martin luther, who declared it as a holy union between two people.

Every republican tries to argue with Religion, but they don’t know where these stuff came from. They don’t care, cause if they unreavel it, they would see it’s all constructed.

All of history woman worked in all kind of jobs. There never was a big issue about that. But the industrial Revolution chanced that. Since than rich people tried to structure workplaces, tried to increase their money. While making a huge impact on societys structures. Woman became unpaid housewifes. Put into care work. City Infrastructur, healthcare is for men, so they can work more and better. So their boss can make more money.

It is scary. So scary. And frustrating. But it is importaint to deconstruct what conservatives are saying. They try to argue with Tradition or science. But we felt for it over the decades. We made fun of feminism, queer folk, vegans or PoC. Or disabelt people. We turned on each other.

I agree with you 😊

Even tho i studied history, it took long to find topics like disability history, gender studies, science studies and… everything PoC are doing. Established Professionals downplayed all of these as not relevant. Not scientific enough. As a young professionell, you don’t want to ruin your reputation, so you don’t engage with that.

In my country you are told, not to drift away from society. Not to built up your own ‘reality’, cause you read… a feministic book.

These gashlight tactics had keep me from enganging with topics and communitys, which are interessting for me. I did not want to be outcasted. But now i feel more confidend.

I want to dive into the neurodiverse community, cause it is such a new perspective in dealing with ones own life. Much more empowering! Much more brave. Learning to live with stuff like high sensitivity, instead of forcing myself to overcome it. It’s changing how i fre myself.

And yeah: how people talk to each all over the world has changed. To devide us is an easy way to controll us. 10 years ago you couldn’t say that out loud (ya soundes paranoid) but since the facebook papers it has become more much more clearer. It’s a tool to undermine democraty. And a lot of people are stepping in that trap.

What a beatiful, beatiful coincidence! Hello, fellow ace! 😊

You are damn right! We need more diversity, more voices like ours. To shape the psychology-landscape and to help people find acceptance/validation. Most of all, we need to talk. Openly, kindly, caring.

In my country, every group of people is gossip about each other. Stereotypes, prejudice… it was always frustrating dealing with that. Not other people are destroing our way of life, but we are. With the hate we uphold.

The rising right wing movement is pretty scary. I am worried about the future of my country, the Internet itself. But the queer community will always find a way.

I want to strech out, what “Heilpraktiker” are. Not for you but cause i want to express how much i dislike them.

The Training programm doesn’t have much regulation. It’s just an exam and some courses to take. During this time you are told to “become creative” with the diagnosis. Only then you can see the biger picture.

Right now they are in the spotlight cause if “false memory” tactics. They tell new trainees, that they had expierence child abused (when they have not) and by that making them question their own reality. They made them leave their family, isolate them and make them depent to them.

And germans are like “but they seem more nicer than actual doctors so they have a Daseinsberechtigung” *screams into void"

This is so true.

I had 2 therapies in my life but it never felt that helpfull. Yes, to give me a kind of stability and helped me to not felt into the dark. But i always felt under presure, when it comes to my asexuality (it’s just ‘trauma’). Or when i didn’t want to participate in ttrpg anymore cause the german geek community is sexist as fuq.

I always felt that i would go crazy and that my fears are not real. That hurted so much and had delayed my “healing” unnecessary. Only when i found a partner to speak openly and when i connected to people dealing with the same stuff, i realized, that i wasn’t alone.

I learned about adhd in women and how east germany had abused psychiatry (cause my stepdad was a refugee from there)… i’ve always believed in psychology, but right now my “believe” is shattered. How can people think, they know more than their patients? Know better how to treat them?

I am glad there are people seeing the same issues. That there is a name to it. It makes me feel more empowered. Thank you.

Yes i know. My gouverment doesn’t feel responsibility for a group called ‘Heilpraktiker’, who tell you that stones can heal depression and that cancer is manifestated hearth break…

I just learned about all of that a few month ago and still feeling… shocked

Wait, its a leftist view? I thought it was a fact

Yes, i will love and protect them forever.

That’s okay. Yeah good internet conversation x)

And yeah, growing older and growing apart is a part of what happen in my case. Priorities change over life. But it’s hard to find new friends for new parts of life.

foreigners come to out country, are happy and highly motivated, but are leaving a few years later depressed and isolated. Cause they don’t find people to make friends with. Cause we are so closed of (i mention it cause i read an article about that. And i really do understand them)

I am not taking it offencive. But how did you read that into it? That my SO doesn’t want me to have friends? That’s not nice for a stranger to assume and to analyse.

My best friend and i are working 10 Minutes apart. But she doesn’t have time to even go out and eat. So we hang out on discord every few weeks. I don’t like that very much, but since corona friendships just are this way. My country doesn’t value friendship that much so we don’t put in the work. And That’s pretty sad, but cause everyone is doing that it’s hatd to break that circle.

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I don’t think living/being poly is as exhausting as keeping up other relationships. It is more exhausting to lie and to hide when you are cheating. Cause you create a mask and by that causing a distance to your partner.

Our society has a big focus on momogamous romantic relationship. Family, friends, other relationships variants… “not that desirable”. Even i, a monogamous, find that… exhausting. My family always fights with each other, my friends are busy working. Who is left to connect to?

I love my boyfriend. But i often wish for more connection with other people (non romantic and non sexual). Just hanging out, sharing thoughts and emotions. Without being afraid of vurnability. But that means to make time for friends, to stop having a grugde with the family.

Every relationship is exhausting, but the connection it’s worth the effort.

Warframe and lilo and stich. Love that idea🥰