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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • The stress is worst.

    ADHD trait, able to deal with stress. this is bullshit, I think it’s better described as don’t notice stress, in short term situations, good! around the six month mark? no.

    twice now I’ve nearly lost my kidneys. Fixing lawnmowers in filth and ice?np Delivering pizza in crap conditions getting slapped off the bike for a decade? never happier. Office job? less then a year in, auto immune system is like “WhAt’s wrong, Why so Stressed, is it these Feckers?!” boom kidney failure, did it again 9 years later.

    Try procurement, it’s paperwork, you get a quartly rush of work with extra deadlines and you can work with plenty of different people, your waitress/people skill would help there.


  • Just as your therapist and agent_flounder say, always start at the very start, just that small step first and remember to stop, don’t go full hyperfocus and attempt the whole huge project in one go. let say you complete three small parts/decisions, slap yourself on the back and go for walk/coffee/game.

    At the kinda base of it, it is about steering yourself into the flow, if you start small and get an early success hit, then tackle a slightly bigger item, you’ll be moving along nicely in no time.

    We’re all taking about career stuff right now, but don’t be afraid to throw in non work stuff, I’m WFH now and I may start the day with some CAD design, slap that part into the printer then start mirroring a customers VM to trouble shoot some janky java that’ll only fail on there eviroment. I won’t solve why that crap is flaking out but at the end of the day I’ll have a new part in my hand and a testing enviroment to begin with the next day. Time then for exercise/chill/motorcycle ride until the kids come home and the real work begins lol

    PS some days I’ll be delighted to have sent an email, can’t win all the time.


  • “Nice work” this is your adhd trick, that dopamine release when you solve a problem. I’m 25 plus years working now, different career’s but that trick, that solve issue get dopamine, I’ve realized I can quite literally fix anything now, could change jobs in the morning and be working on my own with no support in under a month.

    Anything except chemisty and this phone’s autocorrect.

    You can take that trick and apply it on anything else, just frame what you need to do as problem.





  • Dad of three here, had lots of issues like this first time around, they can sense your gowing flustration. couple of things helped first lower your expectations, clothes on backwards? still wearing PJ top? good enough. three bowls of ceral and still won’t eat anything? yougurt! Make things a little game how fast can take off the night nappy? (that’s a little later lol). how often are you waking in the night for feeding? as soon as you can stretch to four hours the difference is amazing. It’ll soon be better, I have all five of us on one couch right now watching minions, pizza later coz I ain’t cooking.