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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • If you’re not getting interviews then the issue probably has to do your resume. Maybe formatting. Maybe the contents or job history. Have you been out of work for a long time? Lack newer tools/knowledge? Too much job hopping?

    If you are getting interviews then the resume and where you’re applying is fine. Either you’re probably lacking in soft skills, interview skills, or not impressing them. There could also be a mismatch between the salary you want and what they want to offer.


  • The main issue is that the Republican party has tied themselves to single issue voters and the kind of religious people who support a ban. They need those voting blocks to keep getting elected.

    For a single issue voter their pet issue is the only thing that matters. They will vote based on that one issue alone. There are a few issues like that but anti-abortion is a big one. If the Republican party dropped it they stand to loose a lot of votes and thus elections. No, they wouldn’t necessarily attract a lot of pro-choice people. Maybe a few if the person is mostly conservative but was pro-choice.

    The reasons someone would actually support a ban on it basically comes down to how they view it as morally wrong. Almost always it is based on the person’s religious views.



  • Ads have gotten worse and worse overtime. Some websites are so stuffed with ads the performance of the website suffers. Then there are risks associated with ads when many have become malicious or used to track people. Then what is advertised can also be extremely questionable. Everything from useless products to addictive mobile games to harmful “health” products to crypto scams show up on ads.

    I’m fine with some ads on free websites/service if they’re not crazy but too many sites have gone nuts. I’m not ok with ads with paid services. Ads during shows/movies are a no go when I paid for them.


  • People use stuff like Alexa or Google home mostly as a voice activated timer, weather reporter, or speaker. If they have light bulbs maybe they use it that too. It can also be handy for voice activated controls for a movie if it can connect to something like a fire stick.

    Most people don’t actually know what might be involved in terms of privacy concerns. They see the convenance of tech or something that’s neat. A vast majority of people simply aren’t doing things like uninstalling Google apps or know what a GPL refers to.

    There are open source and local versions of home automation and voice assistants.

    I have Alexa because it was on sale and useful to me. I don’t really think out loud and can unplug the thing if I want to talk about unionizing. When I replace things or buy new ones I’ll be keeping in mind compatibility with open source or local solutions. Alexa does integrate with a lot of stuff though. I do think it will be discontinued at some point. Amazon loses money on the product and it hasn’t been increasing sales like they hoped. No one trusts the damn thing to buy crap off Amazon for them.




  • Blood isn’t everything. The ex’s mom was a decent person and treated you well. Blood relatives don’t always do that. Sometimes they’re so awful it even makes sense to go no contact. Sometimes their actions are literally criminal. On the flip side there are friends that are basically family and people who adopt.

    What you felt with the ex’s mom was real as anything. Don’t listen to people who say otherwise. The blood relatives who said it was fake were being manipulative or saying something based on being manipulated.



  • I left the question fairly open just to kick off conversation. I was mostly thinking about dating profiles after being on apps too long.

    I can identify with a lack of a big neon sign goal or a bucket list. I don’t really want to do nothing though. I have hobbies and the internet bill doesn’t pay itself. It’s just that my career goals are mostly avoid going into management and retire with enough savings. No need to be CEO or famous or get awards.

    Like a lot of people struggle just to keep a roof over their head and food on the table. I haven’t needed to chase promotions or hussle all the time to achieve well beyond that. Decent pay and some stability sounds pretty good to me. Maybe that’s just boring to some or they’d just want next thing once that got the current thing.




  • AI isn’t actually doing a diagnosis. It’s just trying to predict what to say based on what other people have said online. Often the AI generated content/answers are just wrong. Maybe an AI properly trained on symptoms could give accurate results but that isn’t really what is happening with most of these AI models.

    The AI answer will sound more detailed and involve more fluff. A doctor will often be shorter on details but just because they don’t have time for the fluff. Even doctors think AI answers sound better due to the fluff. It doesn’t mean the AI is actually better or something you can trust.




  • Happiness does come from within. You can be content with most aspects of your life and still want to find a life partner or other have other goals. Part of managing things is just having reasonable expectations. If you can identify something else that bothers you it’ll still bother you when you’re with someone else. A relationship won’t fix that other thing and how much you want a relationship can be magnified with fomo.

    I think it starts hitting harder after 30 or other milestone ages because it’s just a notable mark. Thoughts like, “well, I’m X and still single again.” just pops-up. Also around 30 most people are settling down or already have. Either because they’re wanting to have kids before their 40s or because they’re tired of casual dating. Probably also spent enough time dating to figure out what they want and locked that shit down when they found it.

    Personally I’ve always disliked the process of casual dating. Going out as a couple is good but throwing money and time at trying to get to know someone only for it to not work out gets old. I don’t like getting to know someone for however many days or months then never hearing from them again. I want stability not just a distraction. And after 30 dating can have additional challenges to wade through. Modern dating in general can be a mess for everyone involved regardless of age.

    Protip, don’t read into any kind of pill nonsense or pick-up-artist crap. Also take breaks from dating when morale is low. Do date with intention and state yours if you have actual goals for a relationship. Like don’t bother pursuing anything with people who aren’t looking for something serious or you aren’t compatible with. It’s not a waste of time to figure out compatibility but it is a waste of time if you know there isn’t long-term potential.


  • You probably shouldn’t trust it. Be aware that the CCP will have access to whatever WeChat has access to. Also WeChat will censor/report things based on CCP demands. This might be more important if you have friends and family the CCP can touch or talk to people with that concern.

    More modern phones ask for permission to give an app access to contacts or whatever but the app will probably ask. I wouldn’t put it past them to have some sort of exploit but they probably wouldn’t use it as long as they want access to app stores. If you have to get it off some random site it’s probably fucked though.




  • I’d suggest trying to get involved with social aspects of hobbies. Some hobby stores can have regulars. There are often local groups or events posted on sites like meetup. Another thing is taking a class which might be about a hobby or as a way to start a hobby.

    There might also just be social settings that don’t have large crowds. If you happen to be religious interact with that community more.

    Interacting with people doesn’t mean they’ll turn into a friend but the key to forming a friendship is regular positive interactions. All actual friends are going to start off with “someone you just know”.

    As a side it could help to manage your social battery a bit. Personally working from home has done wonders for me.