Odd. That’s backwards from what I generally hear people talk about. When you’re still in your early twenties, it’s very easy to meet people in college/university. Once you start getting older and leaving behind schooling and its associated extracurriculars, it gets way more difficult to meet people. Where are these 35+ people going out and finding partners? Not saying it’s impossible by any stretch of the imagination, just a lot harder.

Stop scaring me. I don’t want to think about my death!!

I am a younger millennial. I use ellipses all the time tbh. But I never use them at the end of a sentence like that. I tend to use them in the middle of a sentence often to break it up if it seems to long and I don’t want the formality of a semicolon.

Weirdly for me, this wouldn’t be a hoodie. Pullover hoodies are the only type possible in my mind. Something like this would be a jacket to me.

Employee has had years to figure out how people communicate with them.

Maybe your employee does have more difficulty understanding than the average person, but this is such a bullshit excuse.

Everyone communicates differently. What is obvious to someone may not be obvious to others. Some people need a little more precision in the instructions you give to them. I don’t see why it would be unreasonable to provide that.

I’m reminded of an interaction with my supervisor the other day…

Me: Hello. This case has <issue>. Am I ok to proceed with <issue> or does it need to be corrected first?

Supervisor: Have <Company name> figure it out.

<Company name> has literally thousands of employees so I have no idea why she said it like that.

Me: Uhh…do you want me to ask <Name of specific higher up person>?

Supervisor: No, have them figure it out.

Me: Who is them?

Supervisor: <Lower level assistant>.

For context, <Lower level assistant> usually asks us if they are ok to proceed, not the other way around.

Me: I don’t think they will know the answer. Who should I have them ask?

Supervisor: <Company name>

Me: ???

Supervisor: Have them ask <Name of a specific manager>

Me: Ok.

In this whole interaction, she was getting increasingly rude and irate with me for not being able to read her mind. If she would have just said she wanted <Name of a specific manager> to figure it out, she could have just told me to begin with instead of getting huffy and curt with me and unnecessarily prolonging the interaction.

Here’s another example…

Supervisor: Hey, do you want me to move X out of the way somewhere?

Me: Nah, I don’t mind it being there!

Supervisor: I don’t want X there.

Me: <Supervisor>, I am not a mind reader. If you want something, you have to tell me.

Sometimes what is obvious in your brain is not obvious to those around you.

Ok I’m glad I’m not the only one who is confused. Idk if I’m just stupid, but I read the OP three times and cannot for the life of me understand what was supposed to happen with the emails and products. Can someone explain it to me?

Edit: Ok, I get it now after taking a few minutes, but the instructions are still vague. “This” is not a specific indication. Sounds like the employee sent both the product and the email just to be safe because the instruction was ambiguous. It sounds like the employee was uncertain what was meant, but for whatever reason didn’t ask for clarification.

So why didn’t they ask? Does this employee get pushback for asking for clarification? Were they being lazy? Are they an anxious person? There are many possibilities here.

I am definitely not “normal”, but I do not think in autistic. I however have extreme social anxiety and I do think thoughts like the OP. So I think you can feel that way for more than one reason, be it autism or social anxiety or whatever

I have a friend with kids. I’m also an aunt. I think it’s absolutely fantastic when people can be parents, but I also don’t at all understand how anyone is capable of doing that shit. I’m more than capable of briefly watching and playing with kids for several hours at a time, but not caring for them 24/7 forever.

It’s especially wild to me when parents basically explain to me that they are constantly legitimately going through extreme suffering in what you describe in your first paragraph.

But then they tell me how literally suffering 24/7 is somehow all worth it to them and it makes even less sense. I’m guessing there’s some sort of hormonal thing going on to trick the brain into giving periodic happiness episodes in the middle of what sometimes seems to be flat out torture.

Jesus fucking Christ

I never had hamsters growing up and I have no idea that little kids often got them killed in “random ways”. I can’t even fathom what the fuck this means tbh. Do they mean that people accidentally squish them all the time or something???

Tbh I’m a single adult who loves alone and was curious about getting a small pet, but idk if I’d be able to deal with something of decent size like a dog or cat. What are hamsters like?

Sounds like the person you responded to was just taking it as an adventure, not to get anywhere quickly or economically. So in that regard it makes sense and sounds fun.

Sorry you’re being downvoted though. In a general sense, I agree with you. Once I thought I’d look into getting a train ticket somewhere far-ish in the US and was absolutely astounded at the pricetag. It was the same or even more expensive as a flight and took several days instead of several hours.

It’s like…ok I understand the time thing. That didn’t surprise me. But the pricetag sure as hell did!! Cross country train rides in the US are just not a sensible option unless you’re just looking to do it for the fun of it.

By contrast however, there are some decent (if incredibly sparse) regional train lines, particularly in the northeast US. I used to take a train every so often when I briefly lived in New England and found the experience very nice and reasonably priced. Was a fantastic experience compared to a bus.

It just falls apart if you are going anywhere of a decent distance unfortunately.

Wtf I hate this why

I don’t have a set boundary, I just have intense social anxiety so I have difficulty actually transitioning to the friends outside of work part. 99% of the time it doesn’t happen even though I’d like it to. But I definitely have had my “at work” friends until either they or I have moved away.

What? If I have to physically enter the intersection to see around a bush/obstruction, it’s not safe at all no matter how slow you’re going.

No problem. I get to see some nat things from time to time.

Sure thing. It’s been a while and I’ve only seen a few, but I’ll do my best.

So normal lungs are puffy enough, and smooth and glistening on the outside. On the inside, they resemble a kitchen sponge. They are soft and pliable, and able to easily contract and expand to inhale and exhale air.

In these COVID lungs, the outside was very ragged and shaggy. They were distorted with a lot of contracted areas. When you cut into it, there was some residual spongy areas, but a lot of it was white, firm, and solid. Think of how you might get a gnarly scar on your arm from a bit cut. Except instead of just being a single scar, almost the entirely of the lungs are scarred and firm. They aren’t able to contract and expand easily anymore because of how firm and rigid they’ve become. And because they no longer have the spongy architecture, it means many of the airspaces are lost and there is far less areas for potential gas exchange.

So I’m not positive, but I’m fairly sure these COVID lung transplant attempts are primarily performed on younger patients after their body was able to clear the virus. It’s just that in these individuals, although they no longer had COVID, the resulting scar tissue absolutely destroyed their lungs. It doesn’t happen in every case thankfully…or even most cases, but when it does it’s a bit scary.

I remember one of my cases being a young pregnant woman who had to be put on an ECMO machine (artificially oxygenates the blood when your heart and/or lungs cannot). I don’t know whatever came of her, but I hoped she was able to go on and lead a relatively normal life.

You can read a bit more about this sort of thing here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interstitial_lung_disease

Yeah I’m so glad that we’re not still in that disaster. I mean, I know COVID is still out there, but thankfully in much smaller numbers and we have a much greater capacity to treat it nowadays… especially without hospitals being overwhelmed.

I’ve seen cases where patients actually ended up getting lung transplants in an attempt to save them with COVID. I handled the diseased lungs and they were so bizarre looking.

I mean, there are definitely wrong answers in psychology, but it’s an incredibly very gray field…not a lot of black and white stuff happening there. Good luck with whatever you end up doing!

Sorry to hear about your friend.

I don’t think knowing this fact should discourage anyone from choosing to be a donor, though. It just means that yeah, it’s unlikely that you’ll be in a position where they can use your organs when you die, but it doesn’t hurt to be put on the list just in case.

Iirc, I think a lot of organ donations end up being from people in motor vehicle accidents.

I did get to see one case where they harvested the person’s bones instead of their organs. Didn’t even know that was a thing. I’m not sure if they died in a hospital setting or not. Might be you get more time to harvest bones as opposed to organs?

Not OP, but that’s a nope from me. I’ve been trying to break into up jogging, so I’m nowhere near “too fit”. Not getting that runner’s high during or after any of these sessions. I mostly just feel like I’m dying both during and afterward. Any small positive effect I get from it is being able to check off the boxes in the app I’m using lol.