• cybersandwich@lemmy.world
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    He reportedly joked that the secret to a long marriage was ensuring your spouse was “someone who is always mildly sedated so she can never realise there are better men out there”

    “In what was always understood as a private conversation James, the Home Secretary tackling spiking, made what was clearly meant to be an ironic joke - for which he apologises,” a spokesperson for Cleverly said in a statement.

    So a self-deprecating, incredible obvious joke, told in private to friends, has people jumping to be offended!

    People really need to save their outrage for serious stuff because being outraged over something like this minimizes actually serious situations. It’s like the boy who cried wolf(read: outrage).

    Edit: is also fairly obvious that most of you just read the headline and popped in to be outraged. Merry Christmas!

    • rowrowrowyourboat@sh.itjust.works
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      Yeah, this is ridiculous. Imagine living in a world where you are afraid of joking because people will lose their minds.

      Even if his joke was even worse than this, who cares? The people at the party would have thought, “Wow, this guy is lame,” and that would have been enough of a consequence.

      What kind of puritanical, pearl-clutching, and judgemental society are we creating with these outrageous reactions. Get a life people.

      If you wanna hate him, hate him for actual valid reasons. Don’t become a petty gossip-monger.

    • LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      It’s a joke about drugging your wife. You know that’s a real thing that happens, right?

      You’ll have to forgive me for not finding “I abuse my wife” a funny joke. I dont find abusing women to be a funny subject, really no matter the context. If he had said, “The secret to my long marriage is beating my wife,” would you have still found it funny? Or is it only acceptable because the joke is that he is drugging her? I can not imagine what I would do if my spouse said something like that about me. It’s violating demeaning and humiliating. A total lack of respect for me.

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        I showed the joke to my wife and she said that it was a good idea and she would try it on me.

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          Yeah that doesn’t really matter when it is absolutely offensive to women. As evidenced by the response to this leak. Don’t joke about abusing your wife. It’s really just not funny. This has come up many times before in public discourse. It was one of the watershed moments of the feminist movement of the 70s. Specifically men making jokes about beating their wives.

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            The joke is in no way offensive to women. You insinuating that it is just because some overly-sensitive people (lots of which have a monetary incentive to do so) jump to call offense is what’s actually offensive.