The ADHD urge to lie about why you didn’t do something because “my brain refused to start on it” doesn’t make sense to a lot of neurotypicals.
This behavior has gotten me into a lot of shit over the years😬🤦♂️
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Why lie? If someone’s going act like a cunt about it tell em to FOD. Maybe not mean like that… But fuck em.
Because I’d like to keep my job.
I think it’s very healthy to not lie… But as a 37 year old I was raised (rather firmly) with the understanding that “I didn’t feel motivated to start” was a fully unacceptable “lazy” excuse.
For me, spinning some bullshit reason is so second nature that I’ll do it before I realize it might be easier to just be transparent. To further complicate things I’m such a high achiever that I can usually dig myself out of the hole before eating any real pain so… I rarely eat serious shit for my lies.
If you can be honest I think that’s by far the better tactic.
Well tbf I’m brutally honest and it hasn’t really helped me.
Nah, it’s a good habit… It’s easier to slightly temper your expression than be more direct and non-shit managers (I am one) will appreciate your candor because it let’s us plan and respond better.
Basically high level procrastination.
Shame usually, and the fear that they’ll reject me for my shortcomings
And of course a(n) (un)healthy sprinkling of self loathing for failing (yet again) to do the things I set out to do
I’m better at it now than I was before but accepting myself was the biggest step in stopping those lies
@ULS @adhd Well honestly it depends on how close of a relationship I have with the person or what stage of life I was in.
When I was in school, for example, I wouldn’t exactly say “fuck em” to my teachers and parents😬😅
It started when I was a toddler and didn’t understand why I wasn’t doing things. Then as I got older it was easier to lie to get out of the consequences of my own inaction than it was to figure out why I just couldn’t do things. Then eventually lying was just second nature for me. Lying got me out of trouble more often than not.
The point of not lying about it though is so that future generations don’t need to lie.
But yeah… Shit sucks.
Ok now try explaining that to a toddler who doesn’t know shit about fuck and is constantly getting yelled at by their parents for not doing things they were supposed to do, or doing things they weren’t supposed to do.