I want to stop being a perfectionist. I tend to overthink very simple tasks, trying to make sure I do things in the most efficient manner. Agonize over mistakes. I find it funny that I’m so critical of myself but I would never think to apply that to other people. I’m working on it, it’s just very difficult
“Perfectionism is shame leaving the body.” - The Daily Llama
But seriously, I think the majority of perfectionism is rooted in childhood shame. That comes from family that was overly critical, so we attempted to address it by being perfect. Maybe try messing things up in a safe manner on purpose to behaviorally teach yourself that it’s okay to make mistakes.
Vaping nicotine. I know I can stop but it’s just a very difficult challenge for me. Still better than smoking cigs but I really need to let this vice go.
When I quit smoking I holed myself up in a dark room with provisions to last a week. It was hell but it worked.
Check out Allan Carr Easy Way. It really really really works
That’s the plan! I read it originally to quit cigs but ended up picking up the vapes.
I quit 3.5 years ago using that book and have had 0 cravings since.
Nicotine is 7 times more addictive than heroin. It’s unlikely you’ll be able to stop.
Hyper bitchass comment
The statements are both true. Also, the best way to get someone to accomplish something is to tell them it can’t be done.
Maybe if it’s like doing the washing or sweeping the floor or something. For addicts it’s just confirmation that they shouldn’t try.
Maybe they shouldn’t.
I made it a month once. It’s really seated as more of a psychological addiction for me. I am going to try reading Allen Carr’s “The Easy Way” for quitting vaping to see if I can start the brainwashing process of not “needing” this fix.
Working.
Owning a car. I want to walk in a city made for people. I can’t afford to move.
Same. My work is only a mile away but there are hardly any sidewalks and I often have to walk next to roads going like 40 mph. Plus all of the intersections and crosswalks are catered for car travel, meaning there has to be absolutely zero cars to give you the signal to walk. Crossing a single crosswalk “legally” takes like 5 or 10 mins of waiting.
In Amsterdam the crosswalks are catered for pedestrians and you typically only need to wait 15-30 seconds as they don’t mind stopping a few cars.
I live in a major city but like I’m in a bad neighborhood so there’s only one grocery store within 5 miles. It makes no sense. A food desert in a major city so that I’m forced to drive just to like get screws from a hardware store or toilet paper or something
Our US city (pop 180k, metro 600k) is just about to lose the last downtown grocery store.
Generations of city councils have allowed (or encouraged!) the demolition of all housing in the city core to replace it with parking lots.
There’s almost no one left downtown so the city itself is dying. It’s just kind of rotting away. There’s currently at least some effort to reverse the trend, but the vice grip that car oriented everything has on people is terrifying to politicians.
Buying tiny thinkcentres like the m710q.
It’s the best ever bang for the buck for almost anything except gaming. IMO of course.
Two DDR4 slots, an ssd Plus a 2.5drive.
Mint runs perfektly.
USB 3, some 6 of them IIRC.
Super silent.
You can get one for like 40€ or the double for a quad core.
Plug in two screens and just hack away.
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Worrying. Anxiety sucks…
Being depressed.
I want to stop ruminating about things I wish I would have said or some stupid thing I did say or why did I do that
Forgiving yourself is difficult. You have grown enough to realize what you did was dumb. Whenever your brain decides to throw a random cringe memory in your face, consciously tell yourself you’re better now and you forgive yourself for your mistakes. It helped me.
To get out of those spirals, I just remind myself that I’ve probably forgotten hundreds of things other people probably regret saying/doing, and odds are most people probably forgot mine. Even if I’m sure someone didn’t forget it, I doubt they ever think about it anymore.
Being angry at the world.
That’s a tough one. Sorry for whatever strated you down that path It can be mentally exhausting and isolating. I hope you figure a way out of it.
Working “full time”. I love what I actually do at work (generally) but like… doing it 9-6 five days a week is so fucking draining. It feels like working defined hours for the sake of working in those hours. Obviously for most jobs the hours spent working do matter, but for software development it may actually be counterproductive as being tired fucks up your productivity hard
It’s kind of funny. When I’m working on my own stuff, I could easily dump like 60+ hours a week into it. But once there’s an obligation to work on something, especially if it’s scheduled, 40 is unbearable.
Can you go for walks or something to help break up the day
Yes and in fact I do. Unfortunately it doesn’t help with the sense of “rigidity” of the schedule and how draining it is
drifting away from focus
Ageing
Aging is a good sign tho. The only people that don’t age are dead.
I want to stop eating food that is making me overweight.
Have you tried healthy alternatives tho? While i was never overweight, like most people i did enjoy unhealthy food way more than healthy food. But after a lot of trying, i get as excited for roasted Brussel sprouts and asparagus as i was for deep fried bullshit. There is a lot of food that isn’t as boring as it seems and it’s also healthy.
My friend has a history of overeating and was about 70 lbs heavier than she is now. She started a keto diet that helped her get to her current weight/size, and now employs a modified diet where she goes keto regularly rather than stay on a strict diet all the time. It seems to work well for her since she can regularly eat whatever she wants between breaks. If you’re interested, I could ask her for online resources. Let me know 🙂👍
Than you kind stranger. I am actually doing modified keto now with no salt. Thanks again!
I started counting calories. And it’s works pretty well. Maybe give it a try.
Yup doing that as well as personal trainer. The cravings and eating out are what kill me. So I started eating out once a month and making my own lower cal pizza.
Eating Slim Jims.
How many Slim Jims are you eating, and why do you want to stop?
