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Cake day: July 11th, 2023

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  • No diagnosis here, is that normie enough? We all have the spotlight effect, some more than others. Autism symptoms or diagnosis just point you in a viable direction for effective help.

    Eye contact isn’t so bad, as written here already: quick smile or nod that acknowledged the eye contact, then scan to the next point of Interest or head. I basically keep looking around all the time, unless my dinner date is speaking to me or visa versa, then I try to maintain contact at the table. Looking at you plate isnt so bad either.

    The bad thing is staring, even more so if your gaze is not empty but clearly with intent. You can always fake ‘coming back’ from staring if this happens, move your face in a way that eludes the feeling you just ‘woke up’ from a stare, smile apologetically, move your gaze to the next item.

    This might feel like a lot of work in the beginning, but you only just started and have been practicing awkward gazes all your life ^^ , so feeling a bit outside of your comfort zone is to be expected when trying these new things.




  • I live here in the more sought after cities and let me tell you, its fucking horrible. I have an adequate home because I got lucky, but even social housing/rent controlled housing is insane. My ‘waittime’ is 11 years and I won’t even be the first in line for 98% of the houses, those folk have like 16 years. I make below the median income, but with my partner combined, who also makes slightly below median, we are excluded to move into rent controlled housing. Because we make too much money. But not enough to buy a house locally… Nature is Amazing

    A colleague of mine is moving 150km, away from all their fam, because that’s the only place that sold viable houses in their price range, another literally moved into a bus just so they can control where they live. Not great.