I am owned by several dogs and cats. I have been playing non-computer roleplaying games for almost five decades. I am interested in all kinds of gadgets, particularly multitools, knives, flashlights, and pens.

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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • AliExpress screwed me recently. A vendor sent me the wrong items. I mean, they weren’t even the same kind of items. I disputed it with the vendor and they said they’d sent the right things, so there.

    I opened a case with AliExpress. They asked me for a whole lot of information, some of which didn’t make any sense, along with some pictures. I sent them everything. They sided with the vendor.

    Fortunately, I had paid with PayPal. PayPal looked over the information from both sides and promptly refunded my money.

    I don’t expect to be doing business with AliExpress again any time soon.



  • First, get them out of the situation. If they don’t have somewhere to go that the abuser doesn’t know about, see if you have a local women’s shelter. Leaving the area entirely, at least temporarily, may be a good option.

    Second, help them take action about the abuse. Contact the police or find a lawyer to help with the process. There are lawyers who will work cases like this without charging. There may also be local government agencies that are specifically tasked with investigating abuse.

    Third, get them to seek help in recovering. There are likely to be local organizations that provide counseling and other resources. This is not going to be a short or easy process, but working at it will make a world of difference over the rest of their life.

    I’ve been through this with more than one friend. Every bit of it is tough. Having your support will make a big difference. Abusers try to make their victims feel powerless and alone. Having a friend who will help works against that, as well as providing comfort.

    I wish you both all the best!


  • Police officers like those should never be allowed to wear a badge again. And any police department that doesn’t take away their badges needs to be eliminated and rebuilt from the ground up with entirely new management. That is the only way we will ever get these transgressions to stop.

    Step one in dealing with any unacceptable behavior is to make sure there are serious consequences. We are utterly failing to do that with the police.