Usually it’s pretty ok but I remember once being in an online PvP match and windows decided right then it NEEDED to update and started the process. It just went into update mode and restarted (oh so slowly) - my guess is there was a popup that I didn’t see due to being in-game and it just went ahead and overrode whatever I was doing to update.
I think some of the other commenters pointing out that it reads as a command is probably a big one, but you did a pretty good job of explaining it here (imo). Even just saying to him that you want a heads up of if it’s good or bad and working out a system so you don’t stress would probably be a marked improvement for you, and I would bet it’d be an easy fix.