Right? The best plan.

because as far as you were concerned, everyone is in the same tribe as you

I definitely don’t think that way. I’m aware that I am different from other people.

Reposting from my other comment:

Well I had the luxury of dating a psychologist who specializes in diagnoses and her brother is autistic - so she is very aware of autism and how it works and what it looks like in different people.

She confirmed I’m not autistic and thought it was hilarious that anyone would assume that about me. She’s known me for years and she has experience in that field. She knows better than just randoms at a meet up group would.

Well I had the luxury of dating a psychologist who specializes in diagnoses and her brother is autistic - so she is very aware of autism and how it works and what it looks like in different people.

When I told her that random autistic girls from my comm were making this assumption she gave me the biggest eye roll and a laugh. Because duh, I’m not autistic.

Becky Connor. She was such a little bad ass when she was growing up and she does a hell of a job bouncing back from being a widow as an adult.

ugh same.

Eraserhead.

what is ASAB in this context?

god that sucks to hear.

I’m alarmed at the amount of people I met, mostly women, who are like upset when I tell them I’m not autistic. It’s like they want me to be or something. They insisted I needed to get tested to be sure.

Like what is with these people wanting this to be common and wanting to get people join in like its a club? It’s a genetic trait. You either have it or you don’t I thought.

lol even mods don’t follow rules on reddit and there are private subs where people do whatever the hell they want.

Thanks. It was so out of left field. Like damn, I’ve never even posted my art on lemmy for anyone to know.

Telling them it’s over and you’ve involved the local law enforcement might be better to force them to understand it’s over.

Cops don’t do jack shit where I live.

I’d have more time to become a better artist.

edit: what the fuck was that unwarranted shitty comment.

Honestly, no one deserves to be ghosted

Really? Because I’ve had to do it for my own safety.

I’m aware of this and do this but its annoying when it could just open a new link away from Lemmy because so much of being on a lemmy instance for some reason involves me keeping Lemmy in one tab so I stay logged in… because if I leave… then I have to sign back in again.

I get this sucks but you can quit your job and walk away from your employer, theoretically.

Yeah and be homeless.

And I don’t participate in government shit unless I have to like taxes cause they’ll come for me if I don’t pay for them kind of thing.

The government is legally authorized to separate you from your possessions, your freedom, and even your life in extremis. Your boss can’t do any of that and if they try the government should stop them.

there was just a work email put out where I work about how employees shouldn’t be going to the bathroom super often and if they are in the bathroom they should only be doing bathroom things.

I can’t report them for that but it is fucking extreme and dehumanizing. To be policed in the bathroom. Because company time is more important than bodily functions. Or whatever other reason someone might be in the bathroom.

It’s so crazy you brought this up. I’ve been accused of faking interest in the past when I wasn’t and was actually doing the thing on my own.

My last ex did this a lot actually. Great example - he started watching Columbo so I took an interest and also started watching it. Then he like got upset? Told me not to be interested in it at one point?

I had another guy do this too but with hip hop and he waited until we were like two years into the relationship to accuse me of not really being into old school hip hop? Like why. I was literally living with the guy and he would come in the room where I would be listening to stuff on my own. Hell I still listen to Three 6 Mafia and Digital Underground. I even knew about Digital Underground before I ever met him. Like it was such an outlandish claim that I was faking an interest.

I never once faked anything but I’ve gone out with numerous guys who pull this shit for some reason. The only thing that makes sense is they were trying to fuck with my head on purpose.

Now I focus on myself more cause it seems pointless to be interested in things other people are.

you might need to be slightly more direct than with someone who can focus through a whole conversation

ah yeah, this is what I was wondering about! I had heard that before and thought maybe I was being too subtle this whole time.

People w/ ADHD aren’t known for hiding how they feel

They often compliment my hair and what I’m wearing but won’t go further than that. One time I complimented their hair and they blushed HARD. Like put their head down and looked a little embarrassed. Like maybe they only want to compliment me and not the other way around?

This might sound silly but I’m trying to attract someone who told me in the past they have ADHD. Should I be doing anything differently?

Yes and I believe I once saw an old recording of the guys from Alice In Chains doing like a live broadcast there for MTV. Pretty sure it was an episode of Headbangers Ball.