our parents felt the same thing
Your dad simultaneously saw you as the baby who slept securely in his arms, the child he saw through junior school, the teen who he tried to help steer past his own mistakes and the adult he wistfully spoke of with pride
Imagine how good he must feel to know that you remember him this way.
Yeah seconded… That worked for me.
I spent a bit of time going through your post history to get an understanding of your background
In short I think your life experiences mean you’ve lost all trust in men. Not just your direct experiences but what you’ve observed in others.
As a result you enter each interaction assuming the worst. Every male social worker you engage with will confirm this pattern because that’s what you’re looking for. The - ah fuck here we go again - feeling.
For them, and I don’t expect you to have empathy for them, this is what they live - the outcomes of other mens behaviours. But - they were there and they tried. That is something.
You have changed quite a lot of your original post.
Lol that was lada where I’m from
What do you call a lada with two exhaust pipes? A wheelbarrow
What do you call a lada with a sunroof? A rubbish bin / trash can
What’s the difference between a lada
There’s a raffle at the bar. First prize, a lada. Second prize, two ladas.
How do you double the value of a lada? Fill it up.
A fair day’s work = a fair day’s pay
If you do more work you should get more pay.
If you do less work you should get less pay.
If you are paid less for doing the same amount of work, or if you do more work for the same amount of pay, then you’re no longer getting a fair day’s pay for a fair day’s work.
Wage theft is serious business and it’s kind of insidious.
“hey I need you to stay on a couple hours after” then you’re paid the same amount as normal - wage theft
“you can’t leave till the next shift gets here” and you’re not paid for the time you wait - wage theft
“your wage is 25 an hour, that’s 200 a day, the hours are nine till five but most people do 8 till 6” - wage theft (the actual wage is 20 an hour)
“if there’s a dine and dash it comes from your paycheck” - wage theft
“you start at 12.50 an hour then go up to 25 after three months.” then at 2 months 3 weeks “sorry it didn’t work out, goodbye” - wage theft
Wage thieves usually target people that don’t know they’re being taken advantage of. Often people desparate for work, or not highly skilled, or just naive, or trusting. Hence it is (in my mind) predatory.
Fwiw time theft is the other side of the coin.
This comment has given me far more food for thought than the first skim.
Yes, you’re correct. There is more.
Being content with being part of the crowd and being comfortable with your own identity in a way that you don’t need externalise it, because ultimately the validation that you receive can only come from you, because it won’t come from anywhere else. Someone else will claim the credit anyway.
Being comfortable not being noticed.
Just getting on with it. Work, life, pleasure, marriage, parenthood, careers, it’s probably not going to get any better, it’s probably going to be blamed on you anyway, just get on with it and hope no-one asks too many questions.
Find a nice quiet spot out of the wind for a snooze, knock off work at 4pm, quiet life with no surprises etc.
Provides safety and rigour for the environments in which people work and provides a professional standard which indicates a person is trained / experienced / aware of the “right” way to do things.
Like at the very least, sexual health management, consent, grievances, injuries, comprehension of working conditions, rights, copyright, prevention of sexual slavery etc.
I know it’s onerous but the core of this is the worker and their health right.
Sex work is work. Decriminalise it, legislate it, create a sex workers employment category and taxation, require licensing and health checks, give copyright protections to content creators, to their images and likenesses.
To me porn is no more fantastical than acting is.
Are you diagnosed neurodiverse? This is a common trait.
Mate thank you, I’ve been thinking this for a while too.
No single generation has exclusivity on being manipulated.
The boomers had ‘the man’, millenials and gen z have the algorithm. Which is still the man but more efficient.
It may astonish you to learn that many media devices in this wide, rich and varied world are not software applications.
Oh OK that actually makes sense.
45 year olds and above are digital immigrants. In short, they had an off-line childhood and an online adulthood. They have different speech and writing patterns to you because they learnt and communicated in a different way to you.
Assuming you’re under 45, this won’t make sense, because you’ve never experienced a world which doesn’t have this sort of interaction. You’re a digital native, digital tech has always been there.
In twenty years time, children born or educated after the advent of chat gpt will have the same problem understanding you. The way you write, post and interact will seem clunky and old fashioned. It’s already happening - we’re having to adapt the way we interact, in order to be able to ‘be understood’ by AI.
The wonderful thing about humanity, tho, is that we do adapt and adopt! Consider this - everyone over the age of 50 had to learn something completely new to them in order to be able to communicate with you via email, sms or messaging app. They used to just talk, or write letters. Sharing media was a physical act. Yet here they are using the same texh as you. Awesome.