• M500@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    My wife finally are in a point where we can afford to have children, but we are kinda getting a bit old to have children. So we are also choosing the dual income no children life style,

    But a big part of that is our age and how long it took to get to a comfortable place financially.

    Now we want to focus on saving for a house and retirement.

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            1 year ago

            I’m one right here. Tired? Sure, but they fill our lives. This was 100% the right decision for us, but everyone has their own set of goals

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            I don’t know about this commenter, but don’t forget that everyone is different.

            Hypothetically, you might be good having kids in you thirties, but one or both of them might have a condition or disability that gets worse with time.

            I know people in their early 20s with bad arthritis, and a lot of people want to be able to chase after and run around with their kids. Sometimes chronic pain/illness can remove that option.

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              Oh for sure, I dont think everyone should or can be parents. Im just saying its not necessarily a death knell for parenthood in that age range

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      Also mid-30s, and it took us this long.

      We are going to give it a shot, but no way are we going into debt over it. If we can’t get pregnant at this age with minor medical intervention then we are going to adopt. I have colleagues who have spent >$100K on multiple rounds of IVF. I honestly think that’s insanity for the sake of having generic children. My genes aren’t that important.

      • M500@lemmy.ml
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        I think adoption is also pretty pricey but I’m not sure where you’re from.