• kubica@kbin.social
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    10 months ago

    Well, you could pause until you know that you are ready to pay attention.

    Which means forgetting that you had it paused and maybe noticing 3 hours later.

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      10 months ago

      It stuns me that I was so unaware I had ADHD for so long when shit like that is so relatable.

        • Sabre363@sh.itjust.works
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          10 months ago

          But if your finding yourself constantly relating to such things, then it might be a good indicator to look into things more or talk to a good therapist

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            10 months ago

            Absolutely. It’s just important to point out that the symptoms of adhd are things that everyone experiences. It becomes a disorder with frequency, being unable to control it, and it significantly negatively impacting your life.

            Not too different from OCD in that aspect.

            • azertyfun@sh.itjust.works
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              10 months ago

              What about an adult who didn’t manage to complete higher education due to suspected ADHD but now bumbles through life somewhat respectably and makes good money so really those relatively mild “relatable” symptoms can’t be said to have a “significant negative impact”?

              … asking for a friend…

              (for real tho, I’m pretty positive that if that friend got diagnosed the only thing to come out of that would be “be more disciplined” which, yeah, my friend doesn’t need a therapist to tell them that)

              • gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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                10 months ago

                so really those relatively mild “relatable” symptoms can’t be said to have a “significant negative impact”?

                A “negative impact” can and is as simple as “causes undue stress”

                For example, the OP meme happens to me multiple times a day, daily. I notice it and it actively stresses me out and annoys me and worsens my mood when it happens. Sure, it’s not making me kill myself or ruining my work or life prospects, but it’s a low level sign for sure. It’s literally one of the big things my psych focused on during the diagnosis process

                Another example is OCD, it can cause stress and anxiety without the person being unable to function, or even do quite well in work and life.

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                10 months ago

                Could be. The only problem I see here is that it seems to imply everyone needs to finish higher education. And if they aren’t able to that, something is wrong with them.

                Perhaps we should accept that not everyone can do higher education and focus on making it so, that it doesn’t matter.

                Also, if it doesn’t affect all aspects of life (hobby, friends/family, job, school) it’s not ADHD.

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          10 months ago

          “YouR JuST so LazY!” points to PILES of work “BUT YOU NEVER FINISH, JUST STOP HAVING THAT BRAIN”

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            10 months ago

            My wife and I (both adhd) have a running joke where when one of us asks the other if they need anything, we always respond with, “a new brain.”

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        10 months ago

        It’s relatable stuff like this that helped me realize I had ADHD. Now I just need to find some clever coping skills that don’t involve too many drugs.

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      10 months ago

      Get ready to unpause, but it has disconnected you due to inactivity. You shrug and go back to phone

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      10 months ago

      until you know that you are ready to pay attention.

      But that requires me to pay attention to my level of attention.