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I’ve always been quiet and never had much sex. That has changed. I’m in the kind of phase that people look at me and say: “You were so nice! What went wrong!?” And now I’ll have sex with men, women, hookers escorts, removeds not fully transitioned MtoF transsexuals, robots, I’ll probably engage in BDSM, piss play, breath play, and other exotic activities. I won’t engange in drugs/chemsex that’s where I draw the line.
Thus, the advice I’ve always been given and followed looks a little inadequate. Somehow saying to just use condoms, pills and IUD looks like insufficient knowledge to the kind of behavior I’ll engage in.
Therefore I need to up my game into sex ed and STIs knowledge and prevention. I’ve been looking inton PrEP, but I really need to read more about diseases and prevention to protect myself and be able to treat myself if I catch something.
Any suggestion of videos, books, and other learning resources that goes beyond the “just use a condom and have a single partner?”
Not judging…but have you talked to your doctor about your newfound promiscuity?
A sudden change of a core behavior like this is concerning unless you’re like currently going through puberty. In which case it’s concerning for an entirely separate set of circumstances.
OP probably is on a manic bipolar episode. :P
But yeah, a good GP can also answer sex safety questions.
Maybe so, but sudden changes in behavior can be a very concerning symptom. Op seemed pretty blasé about it, but still well aware of the basics and that they need to exercise more caution…as if they were a virgin (or close to it) and recently became so promiscuous.
If that’s the case, then that’s a pretty drastic personality shift. Even if they are diagnosed bipolar, their mania manifesting an insatiable sexual appetite sounds like a concerning new symptom.
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Get the HPV vaccine
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Get and start PrEP!!!
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Never brush your teeth before or after sex, tooth brushes can create microcuts in your gums. Mouthwash is better.
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If your partner gives you bad feelings, has arm marks, or suspicious bumps or rashes, just say no!
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Try to pee after every sexual encounter, it can help flush away anything nasty.
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If your very promiscuous consider removing your pubic hair to reduce vectors for crabs.
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If your partner smells, it could be yeast, best to avoid sex. But if you do it anyway apply a antifungal to your fun jungle just in case.
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Get your vaccines for hepatitis, flu shot, COVID. Your going to be in close quarters with lots of people, so normal infections will be more likely
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Find a doctor you like, and tell them your a mega slut, don’t lie at all. Let them help reduce your risk surface.
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It’s a good idea to shower between partners, just general hygiene.
Bonus A: not all sex has the same risk, anything with blood is very dangerous. Mouth fluids are the safest. Vaginal discharge is safer then penile discharge. Rough order of sexual risk:
- mouth to mouth
- all types of oral sex
- vaginal to vaginal sex
- male circumcised having vaginal sex
- male uncircumcised having vaginal sex
- female having vaginal sex (female is at greater risk)
- giving anal sex
- receiving anal sex (the riskiest activity of them all)
Bonus B: if your having enough sex, someone is going to get pregnant… eventually. Be prepared for that and have a plan. (Especially if your doing stuff bareback, but it’s going to happen even with protection) … eventually
Resources: https://www.pulse-clinic.com/resources/stis
This is wonderful and detailed advice but you can combine the circumcized and uncircumcised points. Studies on circumcision having any medical or protective benefit have been highly influenced by religious interests. The biggest ones by the Bill & Melinda Gates foundation in the 2000s look like pure philanthropy on the surface but people involved were calling for mass circumcision before they did the study. They draw a correlation with questionable methods that people who received free circumcisions in Africa had less cases of AIDS, which could be from any number of social or economic factors even if the data could be trusted. Medical organizations do not consider it to be a benefit.
I think I might throw frequent STD screens on that list as well. Maybe talk with a counselor too just to make sure your mind is in a good place.
100%. If your on prep your clinic will do a std panel every 6 months or less… well they should
Right, but sometimes you have to advocate for yourself.
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I appreciate you amending your post to strike through the slurs and problematic language - but maybe just remove the old words entirely and leave an edit at the bottom mentioning you removed problematic language? For many transgender folk it can be quite distressing seeing the word used
As for advice for this kind of thing, as other people mentioned there’s a lot of advice if you just search for it. Shrimpteeth is a wonderful resource, they have an Instagram account with a lot of free resources too.
I might be wrong and hopefully someone can point you to a good educational resource such as what you are looking for.
All I can say is, because of the close contact and fluid transfers ( saliva, urine, feces, touching another person etc) you don’t just need to be wary of STDs, but of most contagious diseases and bacteria, which are way too many to list. Especially if you engage in scat/piss and are in contact with other people’s blood.
Sure, this applies to anyone really, even people with a single partner. My point is, the more lottery tickets you buy, the more chances to win the lottery.
Having a relationship with few people you know relatively well decreases your risk of transmission not just by numbers, but because they will be more likely to disclose if they have something if they know it. Random hookups may not be this considerate always. I’d be really curious to see material addressing contagious diseases and prevention specifically for promiscuous people, I wonder how it would differ from information addressed to a general audience.
100%
But each practice involves different levels of risk. Kissing random strangers has a different level of risk from having anal sex with them, and a different level of risk from having oral sex, piss play, etc. Some stuff seems obvious, other stuff isn’t as intuitive. And for people who engage in risk behavior, knowing how risky it is makes all the difference in the world. Knowing that having anal sex with an escorts is way riskier than having vaginal sex with her makes all the difference in the world.
Absolutely but wouldn’t that be already covered in regular sex ed topics? I don’t see much of a difference in education requirements for promiscuous people vs not so promiscuous ones, other than keeping in mind the lottery analogy.
Edit: I’m not trying be dense here, I think it’s a bit confusing to ask for sex ed for promiscuous people when what you are looking for instead is just sex ed for a wide variety of niche practices.
In my experience Internet kinksters LOVE talking about their hobbies. I would be surprised if you couldn’t just google “KINK safety” or “hygiene” and not get relevant hits.
Also, I know that for several types of behavior the recommended course of action is to find a doctor you trust and going “hi. I’m going to have unprotected sex with multiple partners.” And taking whatever pills and injections she says you should take.
Unpopular take, but reddit r/BDSMadvice probably has a ton of information on this built up over the years
We can’t say hookers anymore?
You can say whatever you want, just like always. But sex workers and their allies don’t have to like or support you using demeaning terms to refer to them that they don’t like.
If you want to be a decent, considerate person, just refer to them as sex workers (instead of hookers, or prostitutes, etc. Some don’t like the term escort, either.) It’s not hard.
Sex workers is a more broad term though, is there a term for sex workers who have sex with customers?
