We’re the good guys, they’re the bad guys. Isn’t it?

  • cryptosporidium140@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    I don’t think people really mean that when they say we should allow for other opinions. If the message is clearly coming from a mean spirited place you shouldn’t need to listen to that person. From what I’ve seen, bigotry often gets defined as literally any deviation from the exact list of opinions one must hold to be considered left wing. The people attacking “centrism” seem to think half the population is irredeemably evil and has nothing good to contribute to a conversation. “Centrists” to me are people from a wide range of views who decide not to be at each other’s throats and actually talk things out. To me the people who are willing to be civil (with those who are also civil and genuine about their views) are the ones making real progress instead of essentially hoping for civil wars to break out

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      11 months ago

      If the message is clearly coming from a mean spirited place you shouldn’t need to listen to that person.

      Except centrists say we should. All the time. As long as bigotry is dressed up in “civil” language, centrists will say that it’s fair game.

      I am constantly told, by centrists, that my right to exist in society is open for debate. Whether or not I can get my healthcare, or if it is criminalised, is an open question. And that’s not rare, I see it almost every day, from people who think of themselves as “center”.

      From what I’ve seen, bigotry often gets defined as literally any deviation from the exact list of opinions one must hold to be considered left wing.

      No. That’s just right-wing rubbish.

      There are a tiny handful of opinions deemed bigoted. It’s just that the right-wing is utterly obsessed with them, and wants to talk about them all the time.

      People can hold conservative and right-wing opinions about taxation or spending or foreign policy without being called bigoted. Progressives would probably disagree vehemently with them. But it’s not bigotry.

      The people attacking “centrism” seem to think half the population is irredeemably evil and has nothing good to contribute to a conversation.

      That is you strawmanning people, if that is what you think.

      “Centrists” to me are people from a wide range of views who decide not to be at each other’s throats and actually talk things out.

      Talk what out? Be specific. It matters.

      Again, many topics are perfectly open for debate.

      People’s inclusion in society as equals, is not.

      To me the people who are willing to be civil (with those who are also civil and genuine about their views) are the ones making real progress instead of essentially hoping for civil wars to break out

      Civil tone does not a civil idea make, is all I’d add to that.

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        11 months ago

        Clearly we have both frequently seen behavior the other hasn’t. I’m not sure how to reconcile that but I know I’m not just spewing right wing rubbish or strawmanning. I just think most of the real progress is made through conversation and not mashing the “You’re a terrible person” button. If everyone thought the same way we wouldn’t need to fight for progress, but that’s not reality and so we need to choose between conversations and tribalism. You’re free to choose tribalism more often if you prefer, it probably feels better to do that and maybe in your case you need to do that. It can’t be easy to talk to people who on the surface appear to disagree with your very existence. But the people actually talking it through are not the bad guys, they’re the ones getting shit done, changing minds instead of escalating and further entrenching people in their existing views.

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          11 months ago

          You’re free to choose tribalism more often if you prefer,

          Oh bite me. I’m not “choosing tribalism”. Direct your ire to the people slinging abuse at minorities, not at minorities who are tired of endlessly debating their own existence.

          It can’t be easy to talk to people who on the surface appear to disagree with your very existence.

          Not just on the surface. Don’t downplay.

          But the people actually talking it through are not the bad guys, they’re the ones getting shit done, changing minds instead of escalating and further entrenching people in their existing views.

          Historically speaking, you are dead wrong. Societies have fallen to fascism precisely because of moderates and “centrists” making room for fascism to flourish, and impeding efforts to shut it down before it entrenches itself, because they were convinced that “civil conversation” was the only way forward.

          You might feel superior to those of us actually doing the work, but you are standing in the way of actually getting things done. And you will be treated accordingly.

            • darq@kbin.social
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              11 months ago

              Well the most important thing is that you feel morally superior to other people, and create spaces that minoritised people don’t feel welcome in because allowing bigots to voice their nonsense is more important than actually listening to those minoritised people.

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                11 months ago

                May the best ideas win. If your views don’t hold up to criticism, so be it. I think they do, you’re just too exhausted to defend them

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                    11 months ago

                    That sounds like a strong idea. Let’s find out who disagrees with it and try to change their minds. If we get a majority to agree with that idea, maybe we can change some laws