Due to its asynchronous and discreet nature, people don’t have to be in physical proximity or expect immediate responses.

  • intensely_human@lemm.ee
    322·
    3 months ago

    Texting is the opposite of discreet. It produces a written record of everything that’s said.

    • ComradeSharkfucker@lemmy.mlEnglish
      6·
      3 months ago

      Yeah but going through your partners phone without consent is a breach of trust and asking to go through their phone only happens once you suspect something. I’d say texting makes cheating easier to hide but also easier to prove

    • ramble81@lemm.eeOP
      5·
      3 months ago

      Apps like Snapchat, signal and WhatsApp offer disappearing messages. And all three of those aren’t recorded by your carrier. What then?

  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
    262·
    3 months ago

    I know this is true FOR A FACT.

    I sold phones in the early 2000s and had at least one customer with only ONE condition. Unlimited text, because his girlfriend was married.

    Also, that’s how my ex-wife used to chat with my former best friend

    • peopleproblems@lemmy.world
      7·
      3 months ago

      My ex wife prefered snap chat.

      So you know, I just happened to get traumatized by another dudes dick in my wife’s phone after her nude photos I’ve never seen. I don’t know who he was other than her admitting it was a guy she cheated on me with 5 years ago.

      No I’m not over it. Its been over a year, and because of the toxic nature of our relationship I don’t have confidence to go out there and meet other people. It’s fine, I’m fine. I’ve got video games and a shower to cry in.

      But fuck smartphones. I hate this goddamn technology more than I hate my ex.

  • VulKendov@reddthat.com
    12·
    3 months ago

    You make it sound like texting is something new. I guess “new” is relative and cheating is probably as old as the concept of monoamory itself, so I guess in the grand scale of things, it is recent.

  • cashmaggot@piefed.socialEnglish
    104·
    3 months ago

    Fuck cheaters. They’re pieces of shit. You wanna cheat? Fix your shit, or leave your relationship you human piece of shit.

    • orgrinrt@lemmy.world
      3·
      3 months ago

      I’m not sure if an affair directly implies cheating.

      There are many ways to coexist with a partner or partners, and many ways to cheat or otherwise lie/conceal stuff.

      Neither as a premise include an affair, but both certainly can.

      • cashmaggot@piefed.social
        45·
        3 months ago

        Emotional cheaters are still cheaters. All fucking cheaters can be taken straight to the fucking trash. I don’t care how they do it. I don’t care when or what time or age or whatever blah, blah, blah - I just strongly hold the stance fuck cheaters. I’m not talking about a stroll in the park, or a business plan. I am talking about people who are snakes who intentionally and selfishly walk past a series of boundaries and filters because they’ve got their heads in their asses.