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    Remember guys and gals, it’s not body shaming when men are on the receiving end!

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      “This person conducts themselves with a confidence that usually comes with physical traits typically considered desirable.”

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      That’s why I prefer ‘big ballsack energy’ It’s something every male can achieve with enough waiting or the right diet.

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      Are you implying the term Big Dick Energy is body shaming men?

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        Yes. It equates body types with positive/negative traits. ie. “Big dick energy” implies “small dick = bad”

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          Can we shut the fuck up about being sensitive to everything. Just for a day. Sincerely guy with small dick. Its cold out. Always.

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          I think it’s analogous to referring to balls the size of wrecking balls or something. I don’t know of anyone who thinks bigger physical balls are superior to smaller balls, but the phrase is still common to denote courage. I think big dick energy is not as decoupled from people’s biology as big balls, but it’s still mostly decoupled in common usage.

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          I could see how the phrase implies that, however this meme subverts that by saying that dick size doesn’t matter as much as your energy does. And the meme literally says that small dick energy is bad, not having a small pp.

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            Small dick energy is bad but not small dicks? How does that make any sense. Think about it.

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              Saying small dick energy is just a different way of calling someone out for acting insecure it has nothing to do with the size of their dick.

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              Bruh the only time I’ve ever used the term BDE is to imply that the size of your pp doesn’t matter with this meme. Im sorry its upset you, but i dont really care. Trans men can have BDE without even having a dick. YOU are the one implying that small dicks are bad, not me.

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                Honestly your whole argument is very reminiscent of people in the early 2000s using the word “gay” synonymously with “bad” and insisting it’s not only inoffensive to gay people but that anyone who thinks otherwise is the real homophobe.

                The whole “big/small dick energy” things is inherently rooted in body shaming for reasons that have already been pointed out. It doesn’t matter that you didn’t mean it in that way or that you’re trying to flip the script by saying your energy doesn’t necessarily reflect or corporate to your penis size.

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                  Calling someone gay in the 2000’s was not synonymous with calling somone bad, it was synonymous with calling somone homosexual. Gay originally meant lighthearted or carefree. I got called Gay all the time in the 2000’s when I was in high school, the kids never implied it was bad just that I was a homosexual, to which my defense was that I was a Lesbian trapped in a Man’s body so I wasnt gay cause I was attracted to women. The church I went to sure as shit implied that being gay was a sin, but calling somone gay was NOT synonymous with calling them bad. It was used for calling peers out for acting outside of accepted social norms, such as homosexual behavior largely was at the time and still is in some places.

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        It does literally refer to penis size. Hiding it behind the word “energy” is just obfuscation. It reminds me of racist people defending the N word by saying, “there’s black people, then there’s Ns. Black people are fine, Ns aren’t.”

        You’re just kicking the can down the road. It’s the exact same idea, phrased differently. You just wanna say “small dick” and get away with it, that’s all.

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            Did you just describe what I did in a reductive way, without even attempting to explain your point? Why should I listen to you?

            Try attacking the idea itself: “You’re just kicking the can down the road. It’s the exact same idea, phrased differently.”

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                Attack the argument or accept that you’re wrong.

                “Small dick energy” is just a way to say “small dick” without getting called out for it.

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                  Begging people to debate you about how saying small dick energy is like dropping hard Rs is the most small dick energy thing I can think of, no thanks

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                Ooh, name calling! Based on a willful misinterpretation of what they said, too. A sure sign of a solid argument!

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                I compared one instance of belittling offence to another instance of it. Keep up.

                I even added explicit reasoning afterwards in case you got distracted, but you still couldn’t control yourself.

                Maybe try responding to my point itself, instead of the analogy that came with it?

                You’re just kicking the can down the road. It’s the exact same idea, phrased differently.

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                  Lmao you have such debate lord energy, the meme i shared literally says your pp size doesn’t matter. The fact that you equated BDE with using the N word shows how out of touch with reality you are.

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      Fuck off with this shit we’re allowed to roast anybody and everyone for any reason. This is what you call “Lib Shit” for being offended over bullshit.

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    Except when a lady friend wants a big dick, then all the big dick energy in the world isn’t going to do a lick of good, that’s when you have to bring out the lick of good.

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        Is that why he grieved for lost Lenore, he couldn’t find another who insisted on never more, just enough.

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    It’s a lot easier to have the energy if you’ve got it though. It just comes naturally. Being tall helps too.

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      It’s not the size of the boat, it’s the emotion of the ocean.

      You can compensate for a smaller penis by making a big show of crying after sex.

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      Big dicks hurt women, most seem to prefer average sizes. Plus, penetration is often less effective at bringing women to orgasm than oral or fingering, which nearly anyone can learn to do well.

      No reason not having a big dick should stop anyone from having a good time.